Are Looks Important? Somewhat Yes and Somewhat No

I read a book called The Game by Neil Strauss which tells stories about pick-up artists. One of the interesting parts of the book contains the methods of change Strauss goes through in order to become a pick-up artist. He begins to practice his dialog, changes his hair, and even decides to bulk up. Strauss points out that you do not have to be completely ripped, but you do need to gain an attractive physic. I am going to completely agree with the author and explain in more detail why this statement is true.

In today’s society, men put more emphasis on physical attraction than women. An emotional connection and the feeling of protection are what women crave more than physical attractiveness. Some people may disagree with my stereotypical comments, but I promise that this is standard. It is important for a man to appear fit and athletic, but not necessarily showing a six-pack. Ever since I joined a gym two years ago, I have had much more luck with women. I am by no means very strong or even huge shoulders, but I am in good shape and fit well in clothing. Being physically appealing for me raises the chances of a girl showing interest and answering the call after obtaining her number. I also fall into the cute category of men. This makes a certain type of girl interested in me that may not find bulky muscles attractive.

When I go out to the bars with my best friend, we always attract different women. However, we are both decently attractive and social enough to make approaches. Looks will get you in the door, but it’s your actions and words that carry further. Even if a first date is arranged, one must act accordingly and develop conversations for a shot at a second one. This is why I believe that looks are somewhat important but not the ultimate factor.    

Another factor to keep in mind is that women typically choose men that they find either equally attractive or higher on the scale. In other words, if a woman finds herself ugly she will be interested in men who meet or exceed her self image. I generally find couples of similar physical attractiveness shopping in my retail environment. There are always exceptions to general assumptions (yes I know a few couples that are exceptions), but across the board this stereotype stands.

I find that being more attractive as a male opens the door to more attractive females and a broader range of choices. Remaining physically unappealing will limit the interactions and decrease the amount of potential partners. I strongly believe that men can become overly fit or extremely thin and end up losing physical appeal. In my opinion, the middle to upper-middle road that Strauss discusses is the most ideal path to meeting potentially attractive mates.